Dating an arab girl
In reality of course I wasn’t any different from anyone else.
Even in a country like Egypt where religion and family are number 1, possessions and status can still be a huge factor. You have to accept the fact that this is not about two – and this includes all the extended relatives as well.
I used to have this romanticized notion that materialism was something that only Western and East Asian societies suffered from, and that eventually I’d marry someone from a poorer part of the world where it’s not an issue. Given the fact that most people in the Middle East are quite religious and a huge emphasis is kept on one’s spirituality as more important than anything else, there’s still a heck of a lot of status given to people with wealth.
Let me tell you something – in poorer parts of world it can be just as much of a problem as it is in wealthier nations (sometimes much worse).
I had to make a serious choice then and there, without even knowing this girl properly, about whether or not I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.
about myself, my plans and my intentions with the man’s daughter.
This meant everything about my mother and father, what they do and whether or not they’re together, as well as the extent of my religious commitment.
At the end of the very long discussion the girl’s father concluded by simply saying for marriage until they’re well into their mid-thirties.
We actually made our own hybrid word where we took the ending off the English pet name Being in a relationship with someone who speaks another language teaches you a lot of their romantic terms and expressions.
It’d be an opportunity to make a verbal contract of sorts between the father and myself. Traditionally, this kind of over a bride-to-be is done with both peoples’ parents there and I suspect in a lot of areas (especially rural places) it’s almost like a business transaction.
For Muslims especially there’s the issue of a dowry which can be money, gold and assets.
I’ve been here in Korea for two weeks and I’ve been hearing quite a bit about cross-cultural relationships as there seem to be so many foreigners here dating Korean men and women.
Hearing about the cultural differences and challenges they face has really made me reflect a lot on what I learned from through my second language, Arabic.