Dating at midlife what you need to know
Like most relationships that have run their course, it was like a tire with a slow leak.A million tiny, undetectable injuries that culminate in the thing going flat and an inability to move forward.But how to date in the era of eggplant emojis and Snapchat attention spans, when everyone is a Google or Facebook creep away?I hesitantly waded back in, creating a Tinder profile with encouragement from my BGF (Best Gay Friend) and regularly typing the phrase, “Am I ready to date yet?I should have known what I was in for when my soon-to-be husband consistently reached for two sections—sports and travel. As for me, well I guess I’m what you might call a “closeted romantic”: people are always shocked to learn that the first section I reach for in Sunday’s NY Times is always and invariably the wedding and engagement announcement section.
Look at relationships like a series of puzzle pieces making up the picture of your life—there are many different pieces in your puzzle—take some of the pressure off by reminding yourself that a romantic relationship is just one.
I’d like to propose that there is actually a middle ground and that the thought process and actions reflected in this middle ground thinking will yield two critical outcomes: enjoyment during (most of) the dating process and a higher probability of achieving the results you are looking for.
The following are things you need to have in place to work from this middle ground: Did you know that you can tell a lot about a person if you know what section of the newspaper (for those of us who still read our papers rather than the online version) he or she picks up first?
” except replace “mother” with “soulmate.” After six months of celibacy, there were itches that needed scratching and an ego that needed boosting, so I decided to rip off the proverbial Band-Aid and throw myself into the world of dating.
Small snag: I hadn’t dated since the ’90s, not since Bill Clinton was impeached and the Goo Goo Dolls were a thing. I had done some online dating back then, on a site called Swoon.com, when you were lucky if a photo of you existed on the internet.