Getting engaged after 6 months of dating
At the time, I lived in this condo that had gable fences, and when he picked me up, he said it was like a fairy tale.
He was like, "You waved out of your window on the second story and then you came running out of this iron gate." I just remember seeing him and being relieved that he actually looked like his pictures! Our first few dates after that, we were spending three to four hours just talking.
(The average length of courtships in the study was two years, four months)…Speed can become a problem when it is driven by romance and fantasy because, unless one is extraordinarily lucky, the suitors discover that the partner was not as lovely as they had imagined.
Long courtships, Huston argues, are rarely long because the partners are exercising due caution.
I don't usually get nervous before dates because I just expect them to not work out.
I would argue that, say, over 35 years-old, people need less than 2 years pre-proposal because they know themselves better than do the young’uns.
Please share your thoughts about any of the central premises of this piece.
Do you disagree because you have this one friend who met her soulmate, married him in six weeks and they’re still together twenty years later and they have sex twice a day? A man in love might want to propose as quickly as possible but he should have the wisdom and self-control to override that desire.
Another reader – who was attempting to shoot down my assertion that you should ideally wait 2-3 years before getting engaged – sent me a link to a super-informative article.
If you expect your marriage to be otherwise, you’ve got a big surprise waiting for you.“The fact of a couple moving quickly toward marriage is not in and of itself a problem as much as what is driving the speed.