Intelligent men and dating
Men use their drive, single-mindedness, goal oriented traits in both the boardroom and on the way to the bedroom. Their intelligence and creativity are used to entice and seduce the opposite sex. A woman who is driven, goal-oriented in dating comes off as desperate, pushy and aggressive.
It’s not that these are bad traits, but they go against the grain of natural sexual tension and attraction.
While these are very attractive traits to a company seeking a new hire, these are actually very unattractive, counterproductive traits in a woman while dating.
In the dance of dating for traditional, heterosexual men and women, the chase is part of the excitement and fuels the attraction.
Men can profess all day that they love intelligent women, but when I watch my smart, educated, successful and very attractive friends struggle with dating, I am suspicious.
So, whenever something appears to be true but receives adamant denial, I know that the problem is typically the way we are thinking about it and describing it due to societal hang-ups and an inaccurate view of ourselves.
This rumor is spread, for the most part, by intelligent women who are overlooked by men in favor of someone else who they deem to be dumber. As a matter of fact, intelligence isn’t really a huge factor in attraction. And therefore, his criteria is different for selecting someone than for instance your bosses.If a woman can learn to channel her drive and intensity into her career, but turn it off or turn it down when dating so that she can let herself be pursued, so she can enjoy being chased then she will have more success romantically.I’m not making a comment on how women or men “should” behave. I’m simply pointing out that actions and attitudes have an effect on other people. Sex and attraction are one of those things about humanity that pay no attention to politics, religion, education and social pressure. There are things women can do to make herself more attractive to the opposite sex, to entice a man to chase her, to raise his curiosity and his pulse when she’s around.The assumption is that men prefer less intelligent women because women with a high IQ are often passed over in favor of “ditzes” — according to these smart, rejected women. According to the study mentioned in the article “Men are threatened by intelligent women” by the Independent; “Men are attracted to the idea of dating intelligent women — but don’t actually like the reality of it.”I myself at one time believed this to be true and I’ve spoken with many women who had this suspicion as well.In the dating scene, to self-identified intelligent women, it appears true that men prefer dating women who aren’t as smart, who don’t have careers, who aren’t an “equal.” I’ve confronted men with this idea and heard rounds of denial that they love smart women and smart women excite them, but the reality is different.