Relevant christian dating
Therefore you should put boundaries around your expectations and hopes in your Christian dating relationship. I’m not saying you need to be hopeless or never have expectations. If you are closed off and don’t have hope, you are dooming the whole experience from the start. Sexual boundaries are what most people think of first because it’s probably the easiest temptation to fall into. Guard what you say if you want to guard your heart. Not everyone feels the same way about these three words as I do.
So again, the whole experience of dating as a Christian is unavoidably precarious because you are constantly in danger of erring on the “too conservative side” or the “too liberal side.” Don’t ask me what conservative boundaries or liberal boundaries in Christian dating would look like. If you asked one Christian guy to make two lists, one describing conservative values in dating and another list describing liberal boundaries in dating, and then you asked another guy to do the same thing, I have no idea what they would each include.
Proverbs says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.” If this doesn’t capture the tension in a Christian dating relationship I don’t know what does.
It brings immense joy when two people date and then have their “desire fulfilled” if they decide they want to spend the rest of their lives together.
I reserved these words for my proposal with my wife.
I did that because I felt if I truly loved her, why would I wait to marry her? Love is you saying you are going to be there for the person no matter what. Therefore when I said, “I love you,” I wanted to mean it.