Widowed father dating
It could be an inheritance, the love and affection of their father, or the role of feeling needed.When the father’s love interest is much younger than he is, the children may also question the young woman’s motives and have difficulty coming to terms with those of their Dad.Even more than the symbolism of the thing, it was just an awful bed: thin, hard mattress, and so narrow; horrible metal rails on both sides. It’s not like I want him to sit home and mourn Mom for the rest of his days.And of course their good sheets didn’t fit on it, so we had to use some old half-polyester ones dredged up from the back of the linen closet. Or even a minute longer than he “needs” to (however one figures such a thing). My auntie and my sister-in-law and I took the things we wanted, and could use; the rest…can go away. And we’ve kept plenty of mementos to tangibly remember her with.While one might expect that grown children would be happy that their Dad has started to move beyond his grief, surprisingly they often behave with animosity instead.Both sons and daughters are equally prone to react negatively to the introduction of a new woman in their father’s life. A number of reasons come to mind and all of them have to do with fear on the part of the children that they will lose something they hold dear.I know that men who have had good marriages are quicker to remarry after the loss of a spouse.
“That woman is just interested in your money,” or” Why do you want to spend all of your money on her? I’m sure you can think of other zingers that can be thrown at the widower.
He is on the board of the National Widowers’ Organization.
When a widower finds happiness in his first new relationship, hopefully his adult children will be supportive. I recently saw the movie version of “Middle of the Night,’ an adaption of an early Paddy Chayefsky tevevision drama.
Watching the movie reminded me of one of the major conflicts which often face men who have lost their wives and then find happiness and purpose in their lives again in a new relationship.
The initial reaction of adult children to their widowed father’s new found love interest is often negative.